One of the deceptive results that can happen to us when we’ve been wronged is that it can cause us to become walled in by bitterness and that can make us to blind to our own personal failings. It creates blind spots to our own faults.
1 John 2:11: “But anyone who hates a brother or sister is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them.”
The wrongs done to us can easily lead us into hatred, whether we recognize that or not. And hatred causes blindness—we become blind to our own failings.
We can justify our wounding others because we have been wounded. For example, you may think that the wrong done to you is so deep that nothing you do could be as bad as what has been done to you—so you let yourself off the hook.
You may not even realize that you’re taking that hurt out on innocent people. This is especially true if it is not possible to confront the one who has wronged you, or if they are not willing to own up to what they have done. Or in some cases, if they are not still alive.
I recognize that this topic of the wrongs done to us cannot be resolved easily, but we can begin to make first steps toward being set free from the bitterness and hatred which can result because we’ve been wronged.