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What do you do with the hurt? I don’t have to tell you life is full of hurt. But it’s what you do with the hurt that will determine if it overcomes you or you have victory over the hurt.
Years ago, God began to reveal to me how hooked I was on pity parties. That was my way of dealing with hurt—I just indulged in lots of self-pity. And what came as a major revelation to me was realizing God sees it as a sin. Whether or not I have a legitimate complaint, wallowing in self-pity, nurturing my hurt feelings was not what a mature Christian should do. I wanted to grow up in Christ, to become more like Jesus, and I began to see how wrong and silly it was for me to insist on my pity parties.
I well remember the night I came home from work with my feelings hurt—again—by my insensitive boss. I was nurturing those hurt feelings by going over in my mind his hurtful words, what I wished I had said to him, what I would say to him someday, how unfair he was, ad infinitum. Instead of doing something productive, I plopped down to waste an evening by throwing another pity party. Pity parties are indeed pitiful since no one ever comes, and there is nothing to celebrate.
As I began to indulge myself by feeling sorry for myself, I stopped and thought, I don’t want to feel sorry for myself. I don’t want to be miserable. I will not throw a pity party tonight. And with that I got busy, put those hurt feelings behind me, and got over it! It was a major turning point for me, as I began to learn I didn’t have to hold onto those hurt feelings. I could, by a set of my will with the power of God’s Spirit, get over it.
See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many (Hebrews 12:15).
Hurt feelings turn into bitter roots, and those bitter roots grow up to cause trouble.
If you don’t determine to let go of the hurt, it will quickly turn into bitterness, and that is one of the most destructive forces in the world. It causes trouble and defiles many, as the writer to the Hebrews tells us. Then the hurt starts to poison everyone around you, as it spills over to others in your life. The good news is you can let go of the hurt by God’s grace. It is possible to live free from the hurts you are harboring.