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Presented by Lauren Stibgen
During these weeks, we see many spikes in feelings. Especially those of sadness and loneliness. Holidays are often steeped in traditions. We think of meals, being at someone’s house, maybe even the last conversation we had with a loved one. But maybe this year is different. It could be someone who moved far from home for a new job or maybe family who is grieving the loss of a loved one. Perhaps someone is facing illness. Whatever is causing this, the feelings are deep.
Romans 12:15 calls us to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. We need to show compassion as these feelings come up, and we need to consider how to address them at work. Perhaps you are the one with these feelings, and if you are, know you are not alone. If you are not filled with these feelings and instead, are filled with excitement and joy for the season, consider the command of Romans 12:15.
In either position, this verse makes one thing clear—we should not face these feelings alone or allow others around us to feel alone. A 2023 survey found 61% of Americans expect to feel lonely or sad during the holidays. Wow, that is over half our population!
What could compassion look like during this season? As a manager or even as a colleague, I would suggest being a good listener and an even better question asker! Maybe you are already aware of someone’s hardship, but often, people keep to themselves because of embarrassment or for fear of burdening others.
Ensuring those around you have the proper resources is important. Depending on how complex or deep their feelings are could orient how you should best respond. When someone shares a burden with you, here are some ways to respond with compassion.
Offer to pray! Perhaps they are sad because they aren’t celebrating the same way they are used to, or maybe there is a struggle in their family. Offering to pray can help!
Is there someone on your team spending the holiday alone? Perhaps extend an invitation to join your family for the holiday!
Is a team member facing an illness or another hardship? If they can’t come spend the holiday with you, perhaps offering to help with their meal would go a long way.
If you sense the person’s loneliness or sadness is very deep and they express anything that suggests self-harm or a lack of desire for living, this can be very troubling. Have your company’s information about employee assistance programs handy—especially during the holidays. Even suggesting they reach out to speak to someone may be the nudge they need to ask for help. Part of showing compassion is being ready!