PROGRAM D-6786
I’m going to talk about some common mistakes singles make. I’ve written a book by that title, and believe me, I’m totally qualified to speak on the topic, since I’m single and I’ve made a lot of mistakes. First I’m going to talk about a mistake single women often make in relationships with men, and then later, I’ll reverse the order and talk about mistakes single men make in relationships with women.
If you’re a single Christian woman, tell the truth: Have you ever said, “Where can you find a really outstanding Christian man?” I admit, it’s not easy. I’m sure men think it’s not easy to find just the woman they want either, but it’s no secret that there are usually more women than men involved in church and Christian groups. That’s true in every category—young, old, single or married. It’s also true that there are more women than men in this world. So, there doesn’t seem to be enough to go around.
A couple of probing questions here:
What is your first thought when you see or meet a new Christian man? Let me guess: Is he single? Or Is he taken? That’s a pretty normal first thought, but we need to learn to immediately abandon that line of thinking. Grab that thought pattern and refuse to go there. So much of this battle is in our minds, so don’t allow yourself to think of men as potential partners.
Do you find you are feeling sorry for yourself or commiserating with other single women about the shortage of men? This is an easy trap to fall into, but I urge you to discourage these conversations.
They certainly do you no good and they can keep you mired in negative thinking.
Not having a man in your life is not the end of the world. You’re not in an eternal holding pattern. Life doesn’t begin with marriage! While it’s totally normal to desire marriage and a family, it’s a sign of maturity when you can trust God with your future. And that battle is in your mind!
If you’re single or know someone who is, you might want to get a copy of my book, Common Mistakes Singles Make. I think it could be helpful.