We must recognize that activity, people, marriage are not the cures for loneliness. If they are, then we are doomed to a roller-coaster life, because none of those things are guaranteed to us. Activities ebb and flow, people come in and out of our lives, the most wonderful marriage in the world can be severed through death.
If you’re lonely, are you willing to let God change your thinking about being alone? That’s where we begin. But it takes more than that. God recognized our need to know that we are not alone, our need for companionship, our need to be loved and to feel secure. And he has provided for that need completely. Hebrews 13:5 says, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” If you can learn to take this incredible promise and apply it to your life daily, you can know freedom from those awful feelings of loneliness.
Please believe what I’m telling you: His presence is all you need to dispel loneliness. I promise you, he can flood your life with his presence, and you can know the real, long-term cure for loneliness.
Let me share with you a poem which says this so well:
There is a mystery in human hearts;
And though we be encircled by a host
Of those who love us well, and are beloved,
To every one of us, from time to time,
There comes a sense of utter loneliness:
Our dearest friend is stranger to our joy,
And cannot realize our bitterness.
“There is not one who really understands,
Not one to enter into all I feel.”
Such is the cry of each of us in turn;
We wander in a “solitary way.”
No matter what or where our lot may be,
Each heart, mysterious even to itself,
Must live its inner life in solitude.
And would you know the reason why this is?
It is because the Lord desires our love:
In every heart he wishes to be first.
He therefore keeps the secret key himself,
To open all its chambers and to bless
With perfect sympathy and holy peace,
Each solitary soul that comes to him.
So when we feel this loneliness, it is
The voice of Jesus saying, “Come to me”;
And every time we are “not understood,”
It is a call to us to come again;
For Christ alone can satisfy the soul,
And those who walk with Him from day to day,
Can never have a “solitary way.”
With Christ you don’t have to feel that ever-abiding despair of being lonely. He has come to abolish it, and he is totally capable of doing just that, if you will allow him to.